Hi, I'm Stef. This is my dating profile.

Looking for a quiet, devoted partnership — built slowly, online first.5'11" · they/them · 41 · Vancouver, WA🧠 Exploring inner worlds
🌱 Growth mindset
🪿 Absurd silliness
🖖 Sci-fi
👻 Spooky shows
🎩 Period dramas
📝 Slow, deep writingThe difficult stuff up front:⚠️ Pets are a medical deal-breaker for me.😷 Mostly bedbound with ME/CFS and POTS. I can't leave home — connection grows online and then at my place.About me:Practical, analytical, principled — slow to trust, deeply loyal once I do. Meticulous, with a dash of ridiculous.I used to be a software engineer; chronic illness ended that chapter, and these days my sharpest work is on myself. I'm deeply introverted, and inner work is my absolute biggest special interest — constantly learning about where I've been, and trying to be the best version of myself through therapy and reading.My personality is basically:
⅓ Edgar Allan Poe
⅓ Weird Al Yankovic
⅓ Lieutenant Commander DataWe'll instantly hit it off if:🏡 You're a homebody, or want to hang out with one (me)🫂 You have emotional fluency, interest in mutual growth and support🖤 You can sit with difficult feelings and laugh about them with me. Bonus for dark humorThings I like:Dark electronic music with heavy bass (favorite artists are Venjent and SIERRA VEINS), Mike Flanagan's atmospheric dread, classic literature, and using my AI helpers as assistive technology to solve problems.My shows, annotated — the dread, the comfort, the why.What dating me is like:I thrive in the contrast: ridiculous banter, research deep-dives, quiet companionship, and deep, tender devotion 🔥Exploring worlds together, from our private sanctuary.ContactIf this resonates, I'd love to hear from you.
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