Hi, I'm Stef. This is my dating profile.

AuDHD, sober, monogamous, very introverted.🖤 Seeking someone to hold in the dark. Eventually cohabitation and building a life together.😷 Homebound. I live mostly in bed due to ME/CFS & POTS.I'm low-energy but passionate, with a lot of curiosity and a high drive for self-improvement.🤓📚🧑‍💻 I'm happiest when building mental models and running experiments on everything — even tea.I like:
* Introspection & therapy
* Reading (psychology, classic lit)
* Kink (physically gentle, psychologically powerful)
* Music (EBM, darkwave, industrial, dark techno, dark trap)
* TV (ominous, atmospheric; sci-fi; or absurdist humor)
* Engineering my life with AI
* Frugality and financial planning💬 Communication: I'm direct, honest, and transparent. I show up with emotional depth, empathy, and repair tools; I want a partner who can put in the same amount of effort and care. I write long messages on Discord and hope to make it a part of our daily connection.💜 What I want: Foremost, emotional presence. Someone penetratingly observant, who can see me to my core, see my lifetime of grief, and be with me in it. And I want to see and hold your innermost world too. There is no deeper witness than that of kindred suffering. So, show me the darkest, loneliest corners of your mind.😈 Intimacy: I'm a cuddly creature who loves soft kisses, slow build-ups, and a partner who enjoys taking the lead.