Hi, I'm Stef. This is my dating profile.

Former engineer looking for an emotionally deep, devoted partnership.5'11" · they/them · 41⚠️ Pets are a medical deal-breaker for me.😷 I'm mostly bedbound with ME/CFS and POTS. I can't leave home for dates or activities. The best thing you can offer is your company — quick check-ins between work, evenings watching TV, touch.🧑‍💻 Deep emotional connection online first, eventually in person at my place.About me:Practical, analytical, principled — slow to trust, deeply loyal once I do. Meticulous, with a dash of ridiculous.I'm deeply introverted, and my absolute biggest special interest is psychological inner work. I'm constantly learning about where I've been, and trying to be the best version of myself through therapy and reading.My personality is basically:
⅓ Edgar Allan Poe
⅓ Weird Al Yankovic
⅓ Lieutenant Commander DataWe'll instantly hit it off if:🏡 You're a homebody, or want to hang out with one (me)🫂 You have emotional fluency, interest in mutual growth and support🖤 You can sit with difficult feelings and laugh about them with me. Bonus for dark humorThings I like:Dark electronic music with heavy bass (industrial goth at heart), Mike Flanagan horror, classic literature, poetry, and using my AI helpers as assistive technology to solve problems.Hopefully you're also really into:🧠 Exploring inner worlds
🪿 Absurd silliness
🖖 Sci-fi
👻 Horror
🎩 Period dramas
📚 Books
❤️‍🔥 Sensual devotionWhat dating me is like:I thrive in the contrast: ridiculous banter, research deep-dives, quiet companionship, and deep, tender devotion 🔥Exploring worlds together, from our private sanctuary.